This is one aspect where, if there’s going to be any change, women are going to need to take the lead.

Because the way things are set up in hetero dating today, 90% of the time it’s the woman’s call if there is going to be a date #2. With safety concerns, creeper concerns, and all kinds of other concerns (“Is he married?”), a man’s top priority is to not set off any red flags.

And when it comes to the bill, if the man does not cover it…..COUNTLESS women I have spoken with, write this off immediately as a red flag.

As a man who is sincerely trying to do the right thing, I also pick my battles. Risking a quality and loving connection, in order to make a statement… is not a good way to begin a relationship.