I think the main thing most hetero women are looking for is quality male companionship. Men can provide that, or at least some of them can. It has become very rare (or maybe it was always rare).

Oh and there is a lot more to FDS than women working to better themselves and improve their lives. They are anti-sex work, anti-sex positivity, and rather socially conservative. Don't get me wrong, I will hold out and wait for a HVW no matter what or how long it takes. And I have done so. But my view is if a woman lets some group dictate the rules for our relationship, it's not truly an us-first relationship and that is a dealbreaker. That, to me, is NOT a HVW.

I have nothing against women leaning on a group for emotional support, strength to find/use her voice, and to recover from trauma or shock or confusion that nearly all women unfortunately receive.