Hi, thank you for sharing your thoughts.

I watched that tiktok video and to be candid, he has a point.

(Too) many women have unrealistic expectations of a man who will be perfect – tall, rich, charming, 3-5 years older, masculine, empathetic, introspective, extroverted, faithful, comes from a good family, will be a good father… and there just aren’t that many of these men who are single and available. There never were.

I think you are reading things into that video which he did not say. He didn’t say anything about men being entitled to women. He didn’t seem angry at feminism, he didn’t lament that women have more rights now, and he was not pushing for women to be trad wives. I thought he was rather down to earth, and trying to level-set as an equal…unlike (insert red piller name here).

The point should not be that men are lonely, boo hoo, get over it. I don’t think you understand the magnitude of mens’ mental health crisis today. You’re basically saying go to therapy and self-improvement when a lot of men have severe trauma, such as brain injuries from wars or manual labor jobs, for which “therapy” is not adequate. When a man loses all access to his children because his ex-wife is a real pro at manipulating the system, “self-improvement” is not going to help.

And if you’re going to acknowledge how men can be violent (btw women can be violent also, even if not as common), then you need to acknowledge how women can be manipulative (btw men can be manipulative also, even if not as common).

Look, I know how shit a lot of guys can be. I have female friends, beautiful and capable, and they often end up with a manchild. I’d like to find a fulfilling relationship as well. But “meet in the middle” includes recognizing how women are exacerbating the problem, not just pointing a narrow definition at men and saying grow up. Because the reality is not that one-dimensional.