A few things.

One, I am sorry you were exposed to some horrifying situations when you were young. There should be basic boundaries of respect.

Two, Eastern Europe is common for men to be underdeveloped psychologically - sorry for being stereotypical, but any show of empathy or consideration is often mistaken for beta male weakness or homosexuality. Sad that it continues to be true today.

Three, I would argue that Fertility is a legitimate reason why men in their 40s & even 50s seek out women in their 30s and even late 20s. This does not make such men (your definition is 10+ years younger) pedophiles. That is a very serious term, that should be reserved for actual pedophiles who are risks to children. I get that 19 is an in between stage, but it is a sliippery slope to start calling out "pedo" as a blanket statement for all insensitive or imperfect men.

Four, your other four points all highlight the same root issue: power. I say this often, and I'll say it again here: MOST MEN ARE NOT DRIVEN BY POWER OVER THEIR PARTNER. Some are, and they should be avoided. But most men I know, and meet, defer to their wives and even girlfriends as the boss when it comes to making decisions. And not just as a public gesture.

Fifth and last, I do understand why you are calling out men and not women who do the same; your own experience. Somebody else mentioned double standard, but I am seeing you more share your opinion and your story.